Being an introvert, I also observe and don't like being the centre of attention.
I have observed, that there are more people these days that feel entitled and that the normal courtesies aren't used as much.
Just a simple thing like a wave when a driver gives way to you, or a pedestrian does the same. Opening doors for people. Giving up a seat for elderly or disabled. Saying thankyou, or just a smile. Saying, have a good day, and mean it.
All these can make a huge difference.
Just recently at the shopping centre, and walking with my cane, I noticed this more. At a escalator, I always stand back to let people get on before me. I did this and only on one occasion did someone ask me to go before them, upon seeing my cane.
Upon my next, more people gave way to me, but in some narrow spaces, some people got impatient and either pushed past from behind me or didn't wait until I past and and then walked past. It was interesting on who did what, and I did see a pattern on who was patient and kind, and those who just got on, not thinking.
But, most people are pretty good. At least I like to think that. That they would help.
I'm sure your perspective has become more astute since your injury. Sometimes we have to life life at a different angle to see what was not so obvious before.
Thanks for the reminder. Being an extrovert, who’s passionate about some things, I often enter a space like a tornado. 😂 I could try a little stillness once in awhile...
This really resonated with me as I am also an introvert who loves watching people, I learned a long time ago to pay far more attention to what someone does rather than what they say. The adage that "actions speak louder than words "is certainly true. My prayer is that my actions and my words are consistent to God's teachings.
People are fascinating studies. And when you get quiet and watch, you learn so much about them. But you also see some pretty great things happening in the quiet spaces that reflect someone's heart. I agree with you - I hope how I live reflects how I feel about my relationship with my God.
I’m a little late in posting on this message Cathey. Reading again reminded me when you introduced me to ambivert. I had an occasion recently when the neighbourhood had a welcome back dinner for all the snowbirds. For the first time in many years agreed to go with my extrovert husband! I surprised myself, I actually enjoyed it and found observing and interacting with people very entertaining. Thank you for your insightful writing it always makes me ponder. I liked what Christine said as well about people acting so ‘entitled’ I’m always throwing up my hands and saying “what is wrong with people”. I really enjoy you sharing your writing the way you do and look forward to more of your wisdom. Thank you.
Thank you, Rita! I have gotten more comfortable in settings where I don't know very many people, but after about an hour of small talk, I am all done. I have a feeling that's never going to change. 😂
I love this so much and I am extrovert but when I need my stillness I hike or find a place to seat by natures, somedays I am all over helping and volunteering 😂
Being an introvert, I prefer to be in the background helping get things handled. When and if I feel comfortable, I can be chatty. I love reading your work, it is always insightful and resonates with me in some way. Thank you.
Great post Cathey, you made me think about my role in my work at school. I like to be low profile and make things go on, though sometimes I have to take the iniciative and speak to lead.
I’m sure by now you have me somewhat figured out. When life is pressuring me beyond what I can take I put the word of God to work and withdraw into myself. I don’t talk much and I’m looking for relief. Studying others opens doors and windows to ourselves. Thanks
Beautifully written, Cathey.
Being an introvert, I also observe and don't like being the centre of attention.
I have observed, that there are more people these days that feel entitled and that the normal courtesies aren't used as much.
Just a simple thing like a wave when a driver gives way to you, or a pedestrian does the same. Opening doors for people. Giving up a seat for elderly or disabled. Saying thankyou, or just a smile. Saying, have a good day, and mean it.
All these can make a huge difference.
Just recently at the shopping centre, and walking with my cane, I noticed this more. At a escalator, I always stand back to let people get on before me. I did this and only on one occasion did someone ask me to go before them, upon seeing my cane.
Upon my next, more people gave way to me, but in some narrow spaces, some people got impatient and either pushed past from behind me or didn't wait until I past and and then walked past. It was interesting on who did what, and I did see a pattern on who was patient and kind, and those who just got on, not thinking.
But, most people are pretty good. At least I like to think that. That they would help.
I notice a lot more these days.
I'm sure your perspective has become more astute since your injury. Sometimes we have to life life at a different angle to see what was not so obvious before.
Thanks for the reminder. Being an extrovert, who’s passionate about some things, I often enter a space like a tornado. 😂 I could try a little stillness once in awhile...
The world needs more tornados like you, Jan! 💗😊
This really resonated with me as I am also an introvert who loves watching people, I learned a long time ago to pay far more attention to what someone does rather than what they say. The adage that "actions speak louder than words "is certainly true. My prayer is that my actions and my words are consistent to God's teachings.
People are fascinating studies. And when you get quiet and watch, you learn so much about them. But you also see some pretty great things happening in the quiet spaces that reflect someone's heart. I agree with you - I hope how I live reflects how I feel about my relationship with my God.
I’m a little late in posting on this message Cathey. Reading again reminded me when you introduced me to ambivert. I had an occasion recently when the neighbourhood had a welcome back dinner for all the snowbirds. For the first time in many years agreed to go with my extrovert husband! I surprised myself, I actually enjoyed it and found observing and interacting with people very entertaining. Thank you for your insightful writing it always makes me ponder. I liked what Christine said as well about people acting so ‘entitled’ I’m always throwing up my hands and saying “what is wrong with people”. I really enjoy you sharing your writing the way you do and look forward to more of your wisdom. Thank you.
Thank you, Rita! I have gotten more comfortable in settings where I don't know very many people, but after about an hour of small talk, I am all done. I have a feeling that's never going to change. 😂
Great post Cathey….I love to people watch.
I love this so much and I am extrovert but when I need my stillness I hike or find a place to seat by natures, somedays I am all over helping and volunteering 😂
You, my friend, have the hugest helper's heart and it's never about recognition for you. I aspire to be as generous with my gifts as you are!
Being an introvert, I prefer to be in the background helping get things handled. When and if I feel comfortable, I can be chatty. I love reading your work, it is always insightful and resonates with me in some way. Thank you.
I can just tell by your posts here and in the THC that we are quite alike in many ways! Thanks for your kind words, Diane!
Thank you. To me you are quite amazing and I love your writing.
Great post Cathey, you made me think about my role in my work at school. I like to be low profile and make things go on, though sometimes I have to take the iniciative and speak to lead.
For sure sometimes we quiet ones are called on to speak. If you are like me, you like time to process and think before I do.
I’m sure by now you have me somewhat figured out. When life is pressuring me beyond what I can take I put the word of God to work and withdraw into myself. I don’t talk much and I’m looking for relief. Studying others opens doors and windows to ourselves. Thanks
I usually know that when you get quiet, I need to be praying for you. 💗